Why do we let others control us so much? What they say to us — it’s like we’re looking for their approval. That’s only the case for me when it relates to the closest people in my life. My family, my boyfriend, my close friends. We look for the support expecting to get it, especially from those people. But people have different opinions. They’re not always going to agree with you and that’s okay (at least that’s what I’m in the process of learning). We’re all doing our best. We’re trying to survive in this world and play this game of life. We make choices and sometimes they’re the right ones and it’s great, and other times they’re the wrong ones and that’s okay, too. We live and we learn from our mistakes. Except I wouldn’t call something like that a mistake. It’s a learning process. We’re not perfect, so who’s to judge? That’s completely wonderful if you’ve got a different opinion. Say it and be done with it. But the choice we make, the path we decide to ride down, is ours at the end of the day. I’m grateful for all the support I get in life, but it’s a life lesson when it bothers you if you’re not getting that support. It’s up to you and only you because it’s all about you. So my life lesson I’m in the midst of learning is listen to others’ advice, take it if it suits you and don’t let people drag you down if you truly believe in something.
Find your inner peace and let these stressors go. There’s absolutely no point in letting situations such as these bring you down. Work on yourself and make sure you are making the best decisions for yourself.
Find what makes you happy and follow that.
Today’s generation is questionable most of the time. Times change, you know? How we were like going to school years ago is way different than how the youth are now. Sex, drugs, bullying, etc. There’s been a dramatic increase over the past few decades. People change, it’s inevitable. But the way we’ve been treating each other lately is just sad and depressing. Once the children see how we act towards each other, they learn that it’s the right thing to do so they carry on treating their peers like that.
Fortunately, there are times when people rise above it all and actually treat others with respect and friendliness. It’s become fairly rare these days, but I still see it once in a while.
It’s even more spectacular when a child rises above it all. For example, middle school. Those kids are just trying to fit in, find their cliques, and do what they need to do to seem more dominant than everybody else. Well, knowing all of that I came across a video of a middle school football team in Michigan who let a boy with special needs score a touchdown because they wanted him to feel what it’s like. After watching the video, I feel just a tad better about our future. There really are some wonderful people out there — of all ages.
You can catch this amazing video here, and then comment and let me know how that made you feel.
We’re all in need of something. So take what you need because we are all deserving of each of these wonderful virtues.
It has to be one of the toughest things — keeping your cool when faced with an angry, rude and heartless person. I’ve learned to accept that some people just don’t care but it still bothers me. Is it that difficult to put on a new, happy face when you’re face-to-face with someone different? Why explode at someone who doesn’t deserve it just because you’re having a bad day? It surely doesn’t make sense, but it happens quite often. It’s nearly impossible to not let these types of situations affect us. We sit and think, “what on Earth did I do to make this person so angry with me?” But more than likely something happened earlier to make them feel this way.
When something like this happens to you (and it will at some point), you need to take a step back from the situation you’re in and try to realize this angry person doesn’t know better and can’t control their anger well enough yet. We’re all working on some issue in our lives to make us a better person. We all have flaws. Anger seems to be one of them for a lot of people. It’s natural, but people don’t realize that it takes down more than themselves. Once we can forgive them for taking their anger out on us (as difficult as it is), we can carry on with our day in a happy and positive mood. Why become angry when you encounter an angry person? It’s just a viscous cycle. Break it. Break it and be happy.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle” – Socrates
Times are changing…fast. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase: “People often confuse politeness with flirting”. Ain’t that the truth. Is it so hard to believe that people are just trying to be genuinely nice to others? I fully believe in treating people the way you want to be treated. Sure, I don’t get the same respect that I give most of the time, but that doesn’t stop me. I try to be all about kindness where ever I go. Restaurants, stores, anywhere. Because you know what? You don’t know anything about who you talk to – even if they are an acquaintance. You don’t know half the battles they’re going through. How hard they’re fighting just to stay afloat in life. Maybe they or someone close to them is dying of cancer. They lost their job. Their relationship didn’t work out the way they thought it would. They’re struggling financially. It could be anything in the world but we never think of these things.
Maybe all a person needs is to smile, to laugh, to be hugged, to be talked to, to be complimented. Tell me one person who doesn’t want at least one of these situations to happen. Do you ever see a stranger and think to yourself, “Boy, that jacket looks so good on her”, or, “That guy’s presentation was really good! I can learn a thing or two from him”. Thinking these thoughts is one thing. But what would happen if we actually told that person the good thoughts we actually thought about them? What’s the worst that could happen? I have a feeling about the best that could happen: You can change their world. All they needed was that bit of confidence or that one compliment to turn their day right-side up.
If we start this trend of saying nice things or giving compliments to others, I believe people will be more inclined to speak their mind. It’ll show just how much we need to hear it and I could only hope we would pass it on. Learn from how people treat you. Sure, there are people who are just jerks. Actually, there are quite a bit. But I do know that there are MANY kind people out there. I’m betting that the majority don’t open their mouths and say anything. They go about their business and their business only. But if we try and speak our mind to brighten someone’s day, I think more nice things will be spoken and there won’t be as much hostility in the world.
These are a few Disney movie quotes that we learned when we were children. Read them now and realize how deep they really are:
There’s one especially easy way to improve your life optimistically that only takes about five minutes per day. Besides meditation, this new technique has helped improved my life in about week. But like anything else, you need to be serious about it and commit otherwise you may not see the results.
The one new technique that can help improve your life is to start a gratitude journal. A gratitude journal is a journal used to write down everything you are grateful for that day. You can use any type of journal. Just keep it next to your bed and right before you go to sleep, spend five minutes coming up with at least three things you are grateful for that day. They don’t have to be big events. It could be as simple as:
“I’m grateful for working today — not everybody is able to find a job”
So basically, your journal should be set up kind of like this:
Today, I am grateful for: (Date)
When you’re having a bad day and feeling down in the dumps, you can refer back to your gratitude journal. This might improve your mood and remind you that you have a great life. Using the method of a gratitude journal plus meditation, you’re on your way to improving your happiness that can last for longer than a short while. The best way to go about these methods is to meditate in the morning when you first wake up and write in your gratitude journal at night before you go to sleep.
Try these techniques for at least a week and watch how your life improves. It’s really the best way to start your day off great and end it with a smile.
Sometimes we underestimate people. We are forced to deal with rude and inconsiderate people on a daily basis. It then becomes difficult to find generous and kind people. But once we do come across them, it makes it worth it. I strive each day to be a selfless person. Of course I struggle at times, but it’s important to rise above and just be a good person.