I’ve realized we do so much for every person in our lives except for the only one who deserves it most — ourselves. To an extent, we look to others for the go-ahead in life. “What will this person think if I do this? Will he/she disapprove? How can I please this person — along with every other person out there?” I feel like nothing we do is for ourselves anymore. I’ve had these thoughts for quite a while. And maybe it’s because I’m in between jobs at the moment, but now more than ever I’ve felt judged on every damn thing in my life. And I mean everything. I won’t lie, I’m a people-pleaser. Others’ happiness comes before mine does. It has it’s advantages and disadvantages of course. Lately it’s becoming a disadvantage. Say you’ve been thinking about applying for a certain job that doesn’t seem like your type. What’s honestly so wrong with stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new? Is it really appropriate of people to judge by giving you a negative remark or a dirty look? When did your life become theirs? Lately I’ve been feeling binned together — figuratively, of course. Held back, trying to please others, getting by without causing a chaotic storm by getting “into it” with others. I feel like I’m in a rut and needing to do something about my life. Relocation, new surroundings, I’m not sure. Or maybe if people were better at paying attention to their own lives instead of judging you for yours, I wouldn’t have the need to rant on about this. Who cares if you don’t like a decision someone else is making. It’s laid all out there for you: it’s THEIR decision, not yours. Deal with it and move on. We all have hurdles to jump through in our own lives anyway.
Here’s an article that I read earlier today that sparked me into venting about this:
15 Things You Don’t Owe Anyone At All (Though You Think You Do)
It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted on my blog. I’ve been buried deep into photography lately because I want to turn it into a business in the near future. I’d appreciate you liking/sharing my Facebook page to help me get started!
And if you’re in the Chicagoland area, I’m still building up my portfolio, so I’m open to shooting for free. 🙂
I’ve always felt like I didn’t belong — never fit in while growing up. I still feel like I’m supposed to be a certain person to every person. It’s like everyone excepts something different out of you. But through the years of disappointment and always trying to be like they want you to be, I’ve learned that there really is nothing wrong with you. So lift yourself up and free yourself from the doubts.
I’m sure all that has tried yoga can say that it’s not an easy practice. So picture an overweight or elderly person trying it. Way more difficult, right? Wrong. It doesn’t matter what size, shape, or age you are. Yoga is difficult for everyone in the beginning but with enough consecutive practice each week, anyone can do it up to par with each other. You learn to use your body. You learn to know when you’ve strained the muscles just enough. You also learn to use your mind. Concentrating on each pose and what you are experiencing in the present moment. As much as some people may disagree, yoga is for everybody. We see photos and articles of people holding certain difficult poses and we think we’ll never be able to hold them as well, but how do you think those people got to that point? Practice, practice, practice. If you practice right and practice well, you’ll go a long way. And hey, if the hulk can practice yoga, then so can you. 😉
This photo has always been so powerful to me. There’s a light inside all of us that is straining to get out. Center yourself and let that light shine through. It’s a beautiful feeling.