Don’t Worry, Be Happy

I’ve always been a very anxious person. Worrying and stressing about every little thing — wondering if something is going to go wrong and how I would adapt to that. I saw this flowchart about worrying and what you can do about it. It was very informative, to say the very least.

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Of course, reading the chart is simple, but implementing it into your everyday life is very difficult. I’ll admit, I’m still trying to abide by the rules and cut out worrying no matter if I can do anything about it or not. I mean, why do we worry anyway? If there’s nothing in this world we can do about it, there’s no point. We work ourselves up, overthink about anything and everything — analyzing, and nothing is solved but time is wasted. Precious time. But if there is something we can do about it, quit worrying about it and just do it. Nike style.

The point is, cut out the worries and just be.

“Don’t Worry, Be Happy” – Bobby McFerrin

Meditate Until You Feel Nothing

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One of the greatest feelings of meditation is once you get to that point of relaxation. It’s the point where you’re completely relaxed and your worries and stressors are behind you at the moment.

When I meditated today, I was practicing the Shuni Mudra, which is when your thumb touches your middle finger. There are so many mudras to practice when you meditate and they all mean something different. Anyway, while I was meditating, I was so deep into my meditation that even though my thumb and middle fingers were touching each other, I could not feel them in the least bit. During that state, my breathing became a lot steadier and smoother and I didn’t have to try so hard. I just sat back and enjoyed my meditation. Of course, I don’t always get to this point in my meditation. Some days my mind wanders so much and it’s nearly impossible to block everything out. But the idea is to practice every day because it will get easier and you will be able to keep that moment of peace longer and longer. Especially after practicing yoga, you just feel so much more rejuvenated and ready to tackle the rest of your day, thinking, “I can conquer anything”.

Do what makes you happy in life. That’s what it always comes down to.

I’m Thankful To Be Alive

“There is always, always something to be thankful for”

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

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I’m unbelievably grateful for so much this year. All those incredible people who take time out of their lives to help me and make room for me in theirs. Over the years, you start to realize who really is important in your life and who’s just there for the hell of it. I’ve had so many people in my life because that’s just how it turned out — it was nothing special. But in time you soon realize who’s meant to stay in your heart and who really wants to be there.

My friends are very limited, especially over the past year my friend rate has decreased dramatically. It’s upsetting, but at the same time it’s a great wake up call to see who really is there for you. Do you really want friends just to have around who don’t consider you as important to them as much as they’re important to you? It’s not worth it. But you will have those couple of people who love you unconditionally and will always have a place for you in their heart. I’m so grateful for them and the bond we share.

My family is so wonderful. I may have a very small family, but we’re very close and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. All the laughs, smiles, arguments, dinners, game nights, etc. have always brought us even closer and that’s how a family should be. Not perfect, but perfect for you.

I’m incredibly lucky and grateful to have such a supportive boyfriend. I wouldn’t be the person I am today without him and I’m eternally grateful for him. I couldn’t imagine my life with anybody else. We just click in a way that makes sense to us and that’s so important to have with a best friend and soul mate for life.

I’m also thankful for my new job that is absolutely perfect for me at the moment, my house I live in, the food I eat, and my changing outlook on life. Growing up, you don’t realize much that everything I’ve listed on this post can be nonexistent. We’re very lucky to have what we have and to deal with what we do have, even if we don’t think it’s as good as we want it to be. Life changes every day. We change every day. It’s just so important to be thankful each and every day rather than once a year. We all complain about the bad things in life (job, economy, the country, the world, etc.) but we never really focus on the good aspects of life. There’s good in every single day, our minds just choose not to focus on them as much as the bad aspects.

It’s time for me — and hopefully time for you — to change the outlook on life to a positive one because life’s too short and there is so much good in the world that we’re not realizing. Let go of the negative. Run away from it. And welcome and surround yourself with the positive and watch your life change for the better.

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Find Yourself and Just Be

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Why do we let others control us so much? What they say to us — it’s like we’re looking for their approval. That’s only the case for me when it relates to the closest people in my life. My family, my boyfriend, my close friends. We look for the support expecting to get it, especially from those people. But people have different opinions. They’re not always going to agree with you and that’s okay (at least that’s what I’m in the process of learning). We’re all doing our best. We’re trying to survive in this world and play this game of life. We make choices and sometimes they’re the right ones and it’s great, and other times they’re the wrong ones and that’s okay, too. We live and we learn from our mistakes. Except I wouldn’t call something like that a mistake. It’s a learning process. We’re not perfect, so who’s to judge? That’s completely wonderful if you’ve got a different opinion. Say it and be done with it. But the choice we make, the path we decide to ride down, is ours at the end of the day. I’m grateful for all the support I get in life, but it’s a life lesson when it bothers you if you’re not getting that support. It’s up to you and only you because it’s all about you. So my life lesson I’m in the midst of learning is listen to others’ advice, take it if it suits you and don’t let people drag you down if you truly believe in something.

Find your inner peace and let these stressors go. There’s absolutely no point in letting situations such as these bring you down. Work on yourself and make sure you are making the best decisions for yourself.

Find what makes you happy and follow that.

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Children Are Our Future

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Today’s generation is questionable most of the time. Times change, you know? How we were like going to school years ago is way different than how the youth are now. Sex, drugs, bullying, etc. There’s been a dramatic increase over the past few decades. People change, it’s inevitable. But the way we’ve been treating each other lately is just sad and depressing. Once the children see how we act towards each other, they learn that it’s the right thing to do so they carry on treating their peers like that.

Fortunately, there are times when people rise above it all and actually treat others with respect and friendliness. It’s become fairly rare these days, but I still see it once in a while.

It’s even more spectacular when a child rises above it all. For example, middle school. Those kids are just trying to fit in, find their cliques, and do what they need to do to seem more dominant than everybody else. Well, knowing all of that I came across a  video of a middle school football team in Michigan who let a boy with special needs score a touchdown because they wanted him to feel what it’s like. After watching the video, I feel just a tad better about our future. There really are some wonderful people out there — of all ages.

You can catch this amazing video here, and then comment and let me know how that made you feel.

What Did I Do To You?!

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It has to be one of the toughest things — keeping your cool when faced with an angry, rude and heartless person. I’ve learned to accept that some people just don’t care but it still bothers me. Is it that difficult to put on a new, happy face when you’re face-to-face with someone different? Why explode at someone who doesn’t deserve it just because you’re having a bad day? It surely doesn’t make sense, but it happens quite often. It’s nearly impossible to not let these types of situations affect us. We sit and think, “what on Earth did I do to make this person so angry with me?” But more than likely something happened earlier to make them feel this way.

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When something like this happens to you (and it will at some point), you need to take a step back from the situation you’re in and try to realize this angry person doesn’t know better and can’t control their anger well enough yet. We’re all working on some issue in our lives to make us a better person. We all have flaws. Anger seems to be one of them for a lot of people. It’s natural, but people don’t realize that it takes down more than themselves. Once we can forgive them for taking their anger out on us (as difficult as it is), we can carry on with our day in a happy and positive mood. Why become angry when you encounter an angry person? It’s just a viscous cycle. Break it. Break it and be happy.

Fearlessly Speak the Truth With Love

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle” – Socrates

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Times are changing…fast. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase: “People often confuse politeness with flirting”. Ain’t that the truth. Is it so hard to believe that people are just trying to be genuinely nice to others? I fully believe in treating people the way you want to be treated. Sure, I don’t get the same respect that I give most of the time, but that doesn’t stop me. I try to be all about kindness where ever I go. Restaurants, stores, anywhere. Because you know what? You don’t know anything about who you talk to – even if they are an acquaintance. You don’t know half the battles they’re going through. How hard they’re fighting just to stay afloat in life. Maybe they or someone close to them is dying of cancer. They lost their job. Their relationship didn’t work out the way they thought it would. They’re struggling financially. It could be anything in the world but we never think of these things.

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Maybe all a person needs is to smile, to laugh, to be hugged, to be talked to, to be complimented. Tell me one person who doesn’t want at least one of these situations to happen. Do you ever see a stranger and think to yourself, “Boy, that jacket looks so good on her”, or, “That guy’s presentation was really good! I can learn a thing or two from him”. Thinking these thoughts is one thing. But what would happen if we actually told that person the good thoughts we actually thought about them? What’s the worst that could happen? I have a feeling about the best that could happen: You can change their world. All they needed was that bit of confidence or that one compliment to turn their day right-side up.

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If we start this trend of saying nice things or giving compliments to others, I believe people will be more inclined to speak their mind. It’ll show just how much we need to hear it and I could only hope we would pass it on. Learn from how people treat you. Sure, there are people who are just jerks. Actually, there are quite a bit. But I do know that there are MANY kind people out there. I’m betting that the majority don’t open their mouths and say anything. They go about their business and their business only. But if we try and speak our mind to brighten someone’s day, I think more nice things will be spoken and there won’t be as much hostility in the world.