Inner peace. The location of which you are cool, calm and collected. Of which you have found yourself.
We let people dictate how we feel by their behaviors. Why? It’s not like they should have any say on our emotions. Even if you don’t think it, you’re a beautiful, confident and intelligent person. Basically, everyone is in some way or another. And yet we don’t always find that to be true. We let others come in between us and our inner peace. We fail to realize how harmful that is. Don’t let anyone take away your inner peace. It’s your sanity and your release.
In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, “Nobody can hurt me without my permission”.
Why do we let others control us so much? What they say to us — it’s like we’re looking for their approval. That’s only the case for me when it relates to the closest people in my life. My family, my boyfriend, my close friends. We look for the support expecting to get it, especially from those people. But people have different opinions. They’re not always going to agree with you and that’s okay (at least that’s what I’m in the process of learning). We’re all doing our best. We’re trying to survive in this world and play this game of life. We make choices and sometimes they’re the right ones and it’s great, and other times they’re the wrong ones and that’s okay, too. We live and we learn from our mistakes. Except I wouldn’t call something like that a mistake. It’s a learning process. We’re not perfect, so who’s to judge? That’s completely wonderful if you’ve got a different opinion. Say it and be done with it. But the choice we make, the path we decide to ride down, is ours at the end of the day. I’m grateful for all the support I get in life, but it’s a life lesson when it bothers you if you’re not getting that support. It’s up to you and only you because it’s all about you. So my life lesson I’m in the midst of learning is listen to others’ advice, take it if it suits you and don’t let people drag you down if you truly believe in something.
Find your inner peace and let these stressors go. There’s absolutely no point in letting situations such as these bring you down. Work on yourself and make sure you are making the best decisions for yourself.
Find what makes you happy and follow that.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle” – Socrates
Times are changing…fast. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase: “People often confuse politeness with flirting”. Ain’t that the truth. Is it so hard to believe that people are just trying to be genuinely nice to others? I fully believe in treating people the way you want to be treated. Sure, I don’t get the same respect that I give most of the time, but that doesn’t stop me. I try to be all about kindness where ever I go. Restaurants, stores, anywhere. Because you know what? You don’t know anything about who you talk to – even if they are an acquaintance. You don’t know half the battles they’re going through. How hard they’re fighting just to stay afloat in life. Maybe they or someone close to them is dying of cancer. They lost their job. Their relationship didn’t work out the way they thought it would. They’re struggling financially. It could be anything in the world but we never think of these things.
Maybe all a person needs is to smile, to laugh, to be hugged, to be talked to, to be complimented. Tell me one person who doesn’t want at least one of these situations to happen. Do you ever see a stranger and think to yourself, “Boy, that jacket looks so good on her”, or, “That guy’s presentation was really good! I can learn a thing or two from him”. Thinking these thoughts is one thing. But what would happen if we actually told that person the good thoughts we actually thought about them? What’s the worst that could happen? I have a feeling about the best that could happen: You can change their world. All they needed was that bit of confidence or that one compliment to turn their day right-side up.
If we start this trend of saying nice things or giving compliments to others, I believe people will be more inclined to speak their mind. It’ll show just how much we need to hear it and I could only hope we would pass it on. Learn from how people treat you. Sure, there are people who are just jerks. Actually, there are quite a bit. But I do know that there are MANY kind people out there. I’m betting that the majority don’t open their mouths and say anything. They go about their business and their business only. But if we try and speak our mind to brighten someone’s day, I think more nice things will be spoken and there won’t be as much hostility in the world.
These are a few Disney movie quotes that we learned when we were children. Read them now and realize how deep they really are:
Sometimes we underestimate people. We are forced to deal with rude and inconsiderate people on a daily basis. It then becomes difficult to find generous and kind people. But once we do come across them, it makes it worth it. I strive each day to be a selfless person. Of course I struggle at times, but it’s important to rise above and just be a good person.
Have you ever sat at a stop light and just watched drivers as they pass you? I don’t think many of us even realize exactly who is in the other car. We just drive to our destination and it’s almost like there are just cars on the road and not people inside of them. We get so angry and frustrated when drivers don’t drive the right way. It’s really something though, at least it is for me – peeking inside the cars and watching other people. Figuring out their story. Where they’re driving to. The families they’ve got back at home. People watching in general is such an interesting thing to do. You can really learn a lot about others. Mannerisms, personality, even insecurities if you’re able to study them long enough (only if they don’t notice you watching them!)
When we first see a person, we judge them by their appearance. (Not the bad kind of judge, just getting a first impression appearance-wise). It’s the first aspect that attracts us. Once you’ve been observing a person, you start to notice their personality. Their quirks, their mannerisms, their insecurities, the way they view life. Of course, it’s not instantly that we learn these aspects about other people. It takes some time. It’s a first impression of the personality. There’s beauty in it though — learning about others. Knowing you’re not the only person who has certain flaws. No one is perfect and people watching is a great way to show that everyone’s the same in the fact that we all have some type of quirks. It’s a great reminder. We always hear about the good things happening in everyone else’s life: new job, new relationship, new house, engagement, marriage, being pregnant, just simply being very successful, etc. We unfortunately don’t hear and don’t realize the not so great things happening in people’s lives such as problems at home, unable to find a job, relationship issues, money issues, etc. The list goes on and on, but it’s certainly more than true that someone is dealing with some type of struggle at the moment, whether they choose to share it or not. If you’re able to watch people for quite a bit of time, you just might be able to find out their story. You can read people by the clothes they wear, the emotions they wear on their faces, their mannerisms, and how they interact with others. It’s really just important to realize that just because a person looks well put together from the outside, doesn’t mean they’re well put together from the inside. Many people are falling apart on the inside, trying their damnedest to look and feel like how they view everyone else around them – like they have no issues.
I think we judge and treat others poorly way more often than we should. Just because you were treated like dirt certainly does not mean you have the right to stoop down to their level and treated them poorly. And to even take it out on someone who doesn’t deserve to be treated poorly. We often find that happening to us – being taken out on. I’m not saying that’s the right thing to do and you have every right to get upset, but why continue that vicious circle and act the same as everybody else? There’s a solution that we all should live by to try and change the tide for the future – kill them with kindness. Who wants to live in a world filled with unhappy and rude people? It’s only going to get worse as time goes on – I’ve experienced that already in the past couple of years. I know we’d be starting off small at first, but if enough people started treating others with kindness no matter how they’re treated, I believe we can try and turn this unhappy world around.
As there are many people who do meditate regularly, there are quite a few people who don’t. To those of you who don’t, you may not be sure of all the benefits associated with meditating. There are many physical and psychological benefits that will help you live a healthy life (and maybe an even longer one!). Everyone just assumes meditation is to help you concentrate and be calm. While those are true benefits, there are many more that are just as important. I’ve posted the link to the article on the bottom of this post, but I will go over both physical and psychological benefits.
- Oxygen consumption lessens
- Respiratory rates decrease
- Heart rate slows down
- Level of exercise tolerance in heart patients increases
- High blood pressure decreases
- Muscle tension and headaches decrease
- Chance of allergies and arthritis decreases
- For women, PMS can be reduced (thankfully!)
- Serotonin levels (mood and behavior) increase
- Lower levels of serotonin have been associated with depression, obesity, insomnia and headaches
- Creativity increases
- Anxiety and depression decreases
- Irritability and moodiness decreases
- Improved learning abilities and increase in memory retention
- Increased sense of happiness and emotional stability
If these benefits don’t change your mind to start meditating, then I don’t know what will! These are great benefits that will most likely change your everyday mood and outlook on life. It doesn’t change it overnight, but since I’ve been meditating, I’ve noticed a change in my outlook on life.
So try meditating each day and you’ll soon start to see the benefits and your life turning around.
The article that I summarized can be found here for more information.
Sometimes, all you really need is to jump in a hot bath and let the warmth and relaxation calm your mind.
Do you ever wake up especially early to have more of your morning? To find your inner peace before the day even starts for you or anyone else in the household? I’ve recently started waking up a bit earlier to have more of my day before I have to go to work. The repetitive lifestyle of waking up, going to work, coming home, eating dinner, relaxing for a bit or doing things around the house, then going to bed is exhausting and it shouldn’t be like that every single day. I enjoy waking up and meditating while the house is silent. Nobody disturbs my peace and I have the rest of the day to feel calm and collected. It’s easier for me to go into work with a smile on my face and the will to make it through the hectic day.
It’s very tough to be around those who are negative and can’t find the good in every situation. Here you are, trying to be a good and happy person and you’re surrounded by angry people. On the road, at work, people you know, people that you have to be nice to relating to your job — everywhere. You’re being tested. If these people are strangers that you’ll probably never meet again, let it go. It’s not worth it to stoop down to their level and ruin your mood for the day. If it’s someone you know, you have two options — help them find the good in every situation or back off (for a while or forever). I believe in the art of helping others turn their mood around.
That’s why I started this blog — I want to make a difference in your life and help you be a much happier person without worrying as much as you do.
I think a lot of people feel that meditation is easy. FALSE. There’s just an absurd amount of information to learn — the basics, of course, and even intermediate information. I’ll be covering more of the intermediate information in later posts. There are many different ways to meditate. The most common way is to be seated in an Indian style or in a lotus position, which is Indian style but your feet are rested on top of your thighs. Sit up straight so your spine is aligned to get the most out of your breaths, but make sure you’re in a comfortable position. Your eyes can be open or closed, depending on what you prefer. In one form of a meditation position, you can place your hands palms up on your knees. This is to give you energy through your palms. You are open to receive energy. By placing palms down, you are grounding yourself. Another aspect that is open to your preference is whether you want to meditate in silence, meditate to some type of music, or meditate to “om”. OM sample
For the beginners, try it out. Even if you can sit for five minutes that’s a great start. You’ll be able to work your way up in no time.
For the more advanced, what style of meditation do you prefer? How often do you meditate a week?
If you liked this post, I’ll be posting more like it along with a few entries from my previous posts. Please share if you’ve enjoyed this post to help others learn how to meditate and the benefits of meditating. Thanks and enjoy! 🙂