Same Love

“We’ve become so numb to what we’re sayin’. Our culture founded from oppression yet we don’t have acceptance for ’em. Call each other faggots behind the keys of a message board. A word rooted in hate yet our genre still ignores it. Gay is synonymous with the lesser. It’s the same hate that’s caused wars from religion. Gender to skin color. Complexion of your pigment. The same fight that lead people to walk-outs and sit-ins. Human rights for everybody. There is no difference. Live on! And be yourself!” Macklemore feat. Ryan Lewis – “Same Love”

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I don’t know how many of you watched the Grammy’s tonight, but it was one great award show. Macklemore and Ryan Lewis’ “Same Love” was just so moving. I know there’s a lot of controversy with gay rights/gay marriage, but I just don’t see the reason for it. We get so worked up about major changes, such as legalizing gay marriage, when it’s not a huge issue to worry about. This post is not to debate about gay marriage. I completely support anyone if it makes them happy. Isn’t that what we’re all searching for in life? Happiness? We let issues bring us down that sometimes don’t even affect us. Let people live the way they want to live. Every single person is struggling with some type of battle and we forget about that most of the time. Love is the movement. Take away your fear and you’ll go far in life. Times change pretty quickly and I understand it’s difficult to adapt, but worrying about yourself is all you really need to do. (Even that’s not the smartest idea) Once you start letting others dictate your mood, you’re opening up the door to negativity and worries. How are you supposed to live a happy life now? Realize that change occurs constantly and realize that you are in control of how you feel. Live your life the way you want to but also let others live the way they want as well. Each and every one of us deserves to be happy.

Let go and move on.

Don’t You Worry, Child

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.” – Mark Twain

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We tend to worry more about what could happen rather than just living in the moment. Worrying will get you nowhere. I can bet approximately 90% of your worries won’t come true. So why do we worry? Why do we expect the worst to happen to us? Bad things do happen, but they aren’t the only things to happen to us. We expect the worst to happen because when they do, it isn’t so bad. But is that really better than living happily and positively? If we worry less, we can focus on the present moment. It’s important to focus on what’s happening right now to put your mind at ease instead of being depressed about the past or anxious about the future. It’s a difficult task to block out the past and future — but you can’t totally block it all out and you shouldn’t block it all out. It helps you grow into a better person. Cutting out the major worry in our lives can help with so much — sleep, stress, weight control, happiness, anxiety, depression.

Practice putting your mind into the present moment. Everything happens for a reason, so why worry about it? If it’s going to happen, it happens. But more likely than anything, you’re worrying for absolutely nothing. So just breathe, because everything is going to be okay. 🙂

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You Are Enough

“I heard everybody saying that you are never gonna fit in.
It feels like you’re never good enough” – Michelle Chamuel

How many of you can relate to the above lyrics? It happens way too often to me. People bring you down whether they meant to or not. Insecurities ruin us completely but the only person who can prevent them from ruining you is you. Whatever your insecurity is, you can overcome it. You’re a beautiful, talented, smart, and amazing person. We let people get to us and we let it destroy us. “Ugh, your nose is too big for your face”. “You’re terrible at sports”. “You’re dumb”. These are all negative comments that get to us and hurt us. Why do people make these comments? Because they’re jealous and/or assholes. Pardon my language but it’s the truth. There’s something so unique about each and every one of us and no one considers that. Even I don’t, but I’m learning to. All you need to do is stand up, put a smile on your face, and listen to your heart and nobody else.

“When you’re lost and can’t be found
Just lift your head and stand your ground
It’s always dark before the dawn
So raise your voice and sing this song” -Michelle Chamuel

The song I’ve referred to in this post was written and produced by last season’s runner up of The Voice, Michelle Chamuel. Check it out — it’s called Go Down Singing.

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Fearlessly Speak the Truth With Love

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle” – Socrates

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Times are changing…fast. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase: “People often confuse politeness with flirting”. Ain’t that the truth. Is it so hard to believe that people are just trying to be genuinely nice to others? I fully believe in treating people the way you want to be treated. Sure, I don’t get the same respect that I give most of the time, but that doesn’t stop me. I try to be all about kindness where ever I go. Restaurants, stores, anywhere. Because you know what? You don’t know anything about who you talk to – even if they are an acquaintance. You don’t know half the battles they’re going through. How hard they’re fighting just to stay afloat in life. Maybe they or someone close to them is dying of cancer. They lost their job. Their relationship didn’t work out the way they thought it would. They’re struggling financially. It could be anything in the world but we never think of these things.

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Maybe all a person needs is to smile, to laugh, to be hugged, to be talked to, to be complimented. Tell me one person who doesn’t want at least one of these situations to happen. Do you ever see a stranger and think to yourself, “Boy, that jacket looks so good on her”, or, “That guy’s presentation was really good! I can learn a thing or two from him”. Thinking these thoughts is one thing. But what would happen if we actually told that person the good thoughts we actually thought about them? What’s the worst that could happen? I have a feeling about the best that could happen: You can change their world. All they needed was that bit of confidence or that one compliment to turn their day right-side up.

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If we start this trend of saying nice things or giving compliments to others, I believe people will be more inclined to speak their mind. It’ll show just how much we need to hear it and I could only hope we would pass it on. Learn from how people treat you. Sure, there are people who are just jerks. Actually, there are quite a bit. But I do know that there are MANY kind people out there. I’m betting that the majority don’t open their mouths and say anything. They go about their business and their business only. But if we try and speak our mind to brighten someone’s day, I think more nice things will be spoken and there won’t be as much hostility in the world.